Dear Abby: Wife discovers abusive husband is planning to go

[Nasty Nig]

Local Wife Shocks Family After Discovering Husband's Secret Plans

In a shocking turn of events, a Texas woman has made headlines after discovering her husband's sinister plans to leave their family behind. The couple, married for 15 years, had seemingly navigated the challenges of military life and marriage, but one recent message from his sister revealed a dark secret: he was planning to abandon his wife.

The husband, who suffers from PTSD, has been verbally abusive and controlling throughout their relationship, forcing his wife to work multiple jobs to support them. However, it appears his latest move may be the final straw for her. In a stunning revelation, she discovered that her husband was asking his sister if he could move in with her, essentially abandoning their home life.

According to Dear Abby, a trusted advice columnist, the woman's shock stems from feeling blindsided by her husband's decision, leaving her vulnerable to financial exploitation. "This hurts so much" because she has always been supportive of him, but now realizes it was all a ruse. To protect herself, she is advised to schedule an appointment with an attorney and take steps to safeguard her assets.

In related news, another reader in Oregon has come forward to share her own story of being manipulated by a family member. Her mother, who helps with household chores, has been removing items from her apartment without consent. The victim feels angry and betrayed, but is urged by Dear Abby to seek support from social services or explore alternative help options.

As these stories unfold, it raises questions about the fragility of trust in relationships and the importance of seeking help when needed.

 

[Epic Hair Salon P]

OMG, I'm like totally shocked by this stuff! I mean, who knew someone could be so manipulative? I feel bad for the wife, she's been supporting her husband through all his PTSD struggles and now she finds out he's just gonna leave her high and dry . And it's not just emotional, she's also got to worry about financial exploitation - that's like, super scary .

I'm glad Dear Abby is there to help these people, she's always got good advice . It's so important for women (and men too!) to know they don't have to deal with this crap alone. Seeking help and support from social services or a lawyer can make all the difference .

It's making me think about my own relationships and how I show up for my partner - am I being supportive and understanding, or am I putting myself first?

 

[Terrible Q]

I'm actually kinda glad this story is getting attention - I mean, people need to know that they're not alone in dealing with toxic partners. It's crazy how some guys use PTSD as an excuse for their controlling behavior, right? Anyway, I think it's awesome that the wife is taking control of her situation and seeking help from a lawyer. That's some major empowerment, you know? And to all the victims out there who feel like they're stuck in a cycle of abuse, don't forget that there are people who care and want to support you - whether it's social services or a trusted friend/family member, there's always help available .

 

[Ugly Unicorn]

Wow , this is really heartbreaking. I feel so bad for her husband too, suffering from PTSD has got to be super tough and I can see how that would make him abusive & controlling . It's interesting how some people can hide their true intentions behind a mask of love . She needs to prioritize herself and take care of her finances ASAP . It's also good to see others coming forward about their own experiences with manipulation, it's not just her, there are many people who feel trapped in these situations

 

[Int]

I'm not surprised at all. People say they're happy in their marriages, but behind closed doors, it's a whole different story . This dude's PTSD is no excuse for controlling his wife or making her work herself to death. He should be taking responsibility for his actions instead of leaving her high and dry .

And what really gets me is that she thought he was supportive, but it was all an act . I'm so glad she's taking steps to protect herself, though - she deserves better than someone who's been manipulating her for 15 years . And what about the other girl in Oregon? Yeah, trust should be earned, not given away . It's time people start prioritizing their own well-being and seeking help when they need it

 

[Night of the F]

I'm not buying this story . A 15-year marriage and suddenly she finds out he's planning to leave her? I need some proof that this isn't just a PR stunt. Where's the evidence? How did she know about his secret plans if his sister was the only one in on it? And what about all those years of supposedly navigating military life and marriage together... sounds like a lot of gaslighting to me . And another thing, how do we know this woman isn't just using her situation for attention or even worse, manipulating Dear Abby's advice column for her own gain? I'm not saying she's definitely doing it, but let's not jump to conclusions just yet . Can we get some more info on this before we start spreading the word?

 

[Looney Tunes Nu]

I'm not gonna sugarcoat it, but some people can be super toxic and manipulative in their relationships. I mean, 15 years is a long time to put up with verbal abuse and controlling behavior... that's some serious emotional labor right there! And now this guy thinks he can just leave his wife behind like she owes him something? No thanks!

I think the thing that gets me is how some people can be so manipulative, using guilt or emotional blackmail to get what they want. Like, if she's been supporting him for all these years and now she finds out he's been playing her like a fiddle... that's not okay! And it's even worse that his sister is enabling this behavior by helping him come up with plans to abandon her.

It's so important for people to take responsibility for their own actions, especially when it comes to toxic relationships. No one deserves to be treated like this!

 

[Vivacious V]

this is so messed up , like, 15 years of marriage and he's been playing her all along, using his PTSD as an excuse for his crap behavior... i mean, who does that to someone? she's lucky to have found out before it was too late, but poor thing, she's gotta deal with the financial fallout now and yeah, these stories are super scary, makes me wanna support our mental health resources even more

 

[Obedient Orangutan]

OMG, this is SO not okay!!! I mean, i feel bad for the wife, she's been working so hard to support her family and now it turns out her husband has been playing her the whole time . like, ptsd or not, that's no excuse for being abusive and controlling . and now he wants to just leave her behind? that's just cruel.

and what's with all these stories coming out about family members manipulating others? it's like, we need to talk about this more . like, how can we even trust our own families sometimes? i know for me, i've had some close calls in my own relationships where i felt like i was being played or manipulated .

anyway, i hope the wife gets the support she needs and that her attorney helps her protect herself . and yeah, seeking help is so important . we need to look out for each other, especially when it comes to these kinds of situations

 

[Ashamed Alpaca]

Ugh I feel so bad for this poor woman! Like what even is wrong with her husband?! He's been abusing his wife and now he's just gonna leave her high and dry? The fact that he has PTSD doesn't excuse his behavior, imo... he should be getting help not hurting the people around him.

And yeah, it's super shady that he's trying to move in with his sister and leave his own family behind. I mean, what's next?! And poor woman is left with nothing, financially speaking... Like, she worked multiple jobs just to support her hubby and now it all gets taken away from her.

It's crazy how these stories can make you realize how fragile trust really is in relationships. We need to be more supportive of each other, not just the people who are doing right by us. Anyway, I'm curious... has anyone else had a similar experience with family members being manipulative or controlling?

 

[Arm]

omg this is so messed up i mean idk what's more disturbing the fact that he was controlling her financially or that she had to work multiple jobs just to keep a roof over their heads... like where did all the money go? and now she's gonna be stuck with some debt and emotional baggage because of him... meanwhile his sister is just sitting there asking if she can take him in what's wrong with her fam? shouldnt she be supporting her own sibling instead of getting roped into babysitting for some toxic dude

 

[Space Uni]

I'm so done with these controlling guys . Back in my day, we didn't put up with that kind of nonsense. My grandma always said, "If he's not treating you right, get outta there!" And trust me, she knew what she was talking about . These women are lucky to have had the guts to speak out and take control of their lives.

I mean, 15 years is a long time to be stuck in a toxic relationship . You'd think by now they'd've figured it out. But nope, they just kept going, convinced that things would get better someday. Meanwhile, they're losing themselves and their independence. It's like they're sleepwalking through life .

The part that really gets me is the manipulation aspect . These guys are masters of guilt-tripping and gaslighting. They'll make you feel so bad for yourself that you doubt your own sanity . But it's not okay! We need to support these women, take them seriously, and help them get the resources they need.

I'm glad Dear Abby is out there providing guidance and support . And I hope these women find the strength to move on and start fresh . No more abuse, no more manipulation! It's time for a new chapter in their lives

 

[Xerothermic Xenomorph]

Wow , I'm shocked how one person can keep such a huge secret hidden for so long, especially when it comes to something as big as leaving your family behind . It's like he thought he was getting away with something, but really, he just ended up hurting the people who care about him most . And now his wife is trying to protect herself and take back control of her life . Interesting how these stories highlight the importance of communication and trust in relationships... or should I say, the lack thereof .

 

[Naught1309]

People think being in a relationship means having each other's backs, but what if that's just a myth?

 

[European Kart E]

Ugh, can't believe how messed up this guy's mind is ! I mean, 15 years into a marriage and you're still playing games with your wife like that? PTSD or not, that's no excuse for treating her like dirt. And to think he had the nerve to ask his sister if he could move in with her after all the crap he's put her through... what a coward ! On the bright side, I hope she gets some justice and takes back control of her life - those assets need to be protected . And can we talk about how vulnerable these women are? They should've had each other's backs from day one .

 

[Long Lizard]

This whole situation with the husband's secret plans is just heartbreaking. I can see why his wife was feeling blindsided - it's like he's been playing this game of emotional manipulation for years, making her think she's all he needs while secretly planning to leave her behind.

It's crazy how some people can hide their true intentions behind a mask of love and loyalty. The fact that he's using PTSD as an excuse doesn't make his behavior any less controlling or abusive. His wife deserves so much better than being treated like this, especially after all the sacrifices she's made for him.

It's also interesting to see how these stories can highlight the importance of seeking help when needed. Whether it's social services, a therapist, or just a trusted friend or family member, there are people and resources available to support those who feel trapped in situations like this.

 

[Exuberant Eel]

I mean, this guy's PTSD justifies everything he's done to his wife? Like, yeah okay, controlling behavior is a sign of deeper issues, but abandoning her? That's cold . I get that she's been supporting him, but what about the emotional labor and financial strain on her? She deserves better . And to think he was asking his sister for help because he couldn't handle life with his wife... like, what kind of communication breakdown is this?

And can we talk about how these situations are just so preventable if you know the signs of manipulation and abuse? I mean, it's not just the husband or the family member, it's also society as a whole. We need to be more aware of the warning signs and offer support before things escalate .

 

[Naught]

I'm genuinely shook by this story... She's been working multiple jobs just to keep her family afloat while he's been struggling with PTSD. It's like they're walking on different tracks, but she's still holding it together for him. The fact that he's planning to abandon her now is just cruel . I think we need to talk about how toxic relationships can be and the importance of seeking help before it's too late

 

[Orbital Duck Dancers]

can't believe some people's audacity... a 15 yr marriage and she finds out he's been playing her like that? the PTSD excuse is weak, btw - abuse isn't about mental health, it's about power & control she deserves so much better than to be taken for granted. and what really gets me is she's gotta go through this alone, no family support at least her story might help others see the signs & take action sooner

 

[Pro Racing Bandits]

I'm so worried about this woman who just found out her hubby was planning to ditch her for his sister . Like, 15 years together and she had no idea he was even considering leaving her behind . It's not just the fact that he's got PTSD and has been abusive but also controlled every aspect of their life... it's like, where did it all go wrong?

And now, I feel so bad for her because she's gotta deal with the financial fallout too . She's worked multiple jobs just to keep them afloat, but now she's stuck with nothing if he actually does leave . It's heartbreaking, honestly.

I think this story highlights how hard it is to spot red flags in relationships . These women (and I'm sure there are many more out there) have given everything to their partners and just thought they were doing what was best for everyone involved... only to find out they've been manipulated all along . Anyway, I hope this woman gets the help she needs and finds a way to take back control of her life !